Monday, July 09, 2007

Stop Wasting My Time

Sunday I sat in church listening to a woman my age speak. Her talk started normally enough. Then something happened that sent steam billowing from my ears. She quoted almost an entire children's book. Worse, a children's book in the most inane rhyme I've heard in a long time.

This is not the first time I've heard children's books quoted in full by women in my church in place of actual lesson/talk preparation. I've sat through more than one lesson where a woman stood in a room full of other adult women and read a storybook. Showed us the pictures and everything.

This makes me so mad! My church teaches that men and women are equal. That we have different tasks and abilities but that in God's eyes, we are equally valuable and needed. No man would ever dream of reading a storybook to a class, or of quoting an insipid poem to the congregation. It would be an insult to the intelligence of his audience. The class/congregation is full of adults. So then why, oh why do women think this is okay? It's ridiculous.

I'll grant many women in my church are stay-at-home moms. They spend a lot of time with little children. They read those poem-parables all the time to their kids. However. Reading your little children a storybook is fine. Reading adults a storybook is a waste of their time. When my daughter goes to bed, I don't sit around reading her books. I want to edify, challenge myself, learn new perspectives, new ways of thinking about things. So I read adult books.

1 Corinthians 13:11 - When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

I have spent a lot of time learning more about the gospel, growing past the childish things. I'd like that to be acknowledged by hearing about the meat of the gospel when I go to church, not having more milk sloshed in my face. If women in my church want to be treated as equals, I really hope they will start acting like equals of men.


Emily May said...

Thank you! No wonder LDS women are often seen as flaky or oppressed by others who are not well, mormon. And this only reiterates such stereotypes. Don't try to relate to my role as a mother by "dumbying" me down. It's too bad the woman was your age. I thought the generation that did this sort of thing was 'dying off' w/ much relief. Sometimes , well actually, all the time women are their own worst enemies. Why do we fear other women smarter and more powerful then our own husbands?

canape said...

What a great point, Anth! Well stated and quite true.

Rebecca said...

I tried to comment earlier...but I don't think it stuck.

Anyway, I wanted to say that I totally jived with this post. For generations women have been struggling to be accepted as equals and the fact is that there is still work to be done. This post illustrates how important it is to stay vigilant so that our daughters may inherit a society with an ethos of gender equality!

Emily May said...

Could you please post more things like this? It was very well done. But what;s even more impressive is that you attract women who think the same way :)

MaryJo said...

I too am LDS and enjoy reading your blog and completly agree with what you are saying! This one lady does that all of the time in relief society and all of the women love it for some reason?! Another pet peeve of mine is when people recite or quote songs in their prayers!!! Drives me up a wall!!

Isabel said...

It's the same thing with the tablecloth in RS. You'd NEVER see that in EQ, but the RS would die before they taught their lesson sans the lace tablecloth. AHHHH!!

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